Sorry you haven't come across this blog before. It's probably just as well. If you'd asked, I'd have shared the URL. Clearly you weren't that interested.
Sorry you're pissed off because my husband didn't send you a link to photos. We've had a lot on our plate. See if you'd expressed any interest in me before you'd have known about this - I publish my photos here and here because it's easier for people who are interested in me to find them.
Thanks for calling and bitching my husband out at such a tiring and stressful time for us. A time when I'm recovering from weeks of poor sleep because I was so uncomfortable, 3 days of labor and major abdominal surgery. You've really helped us out.
UPDATE at Friday 8 June : The ViL received an apology by text. Hurray!!
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My understanding is the sister-in-law has no children. She'll never understand you or Simon again. She will always put herself first. But you & Simon have William first in your life now. She is a lost cause and will never get it.
You gotta love family.
Gag.
Send her a dirty diaper since she's feeling left out.
You can flip me off for this if you want but...
Take it from someone who has had a major family strife over similar issues and it just isn't worth it to engage. Who it hurts if you are warring with your SIL is the VIL who despite his own annoyance/irritation/rage probably feels he has to deal with his own family. Also, it is just wasted energy on your part anyway. The best response is a cool response and even if it is fake civility it is better than just being mad. Your emotions are going to be running high for a few months because of the hormones, also.
The reason I posted is that I regret all the feuding with my SIL. It really hurt my parents in the end who despite their shortcomings love us both!
I agree - it's not worth it to engage. That's been my tactic throughout 10 years after a shaky start at the wedding and it's served me well!!
I've always viewed it as not really my business how brother and sister conduct their relationship. The ViL largely stays out of my (good) relationship with my brother.
I just kinda flipped on this one. Yeah, it was a hormonal day. But I also thought - how freakin' rude - I mean if I'd been in a car wreck on Sunday and had a little kid to take care of I don't think people would have thought it was OK to harass us about pictures.
And re. the blog - if she had one I wouldn't be able to resist looking at it. I wouldn't look at it all the time... but I'd def. check it.
Just a note that my sister has texted me to apologise.
I understand and I'm sure it was warranted. I also think it is my husband's job to deal with his family not mine (for example I know women who take over communication for their husbands and I just am not willing to do that).
I just had a baby 4 mos ago and all your family dynamics will change. Babies just all the sudden seem to be "public" property. I had to learn to just let all the helpful *advice* roll off my back and also you really are going to be pretty high emotions for the next month or so until your hormones level out.
Also, I commented about my family because I screwed up. I kept engaging and in the end it honestly just did not matter. And as soon as I stopped engaging/reacting a lot of the comments/drama stopped. I just learned the "kill them with kindness" worked for me :)
Oh, and congrats on the new baby. He is beautiful and you are going to love the next few weeks. They are such a special time.
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